True Friends, Where Are You?
A True Friend!
Lately, maybe because of economic stress or maybe because I am finally growing up, I am starting to wonder what a “True Friend” really is and really wonder if I have any… It seems lately the only people I have faith in is my family (this excludes you, Betsy.) Is a “True Friend” someone that has the same moral qualities as me? Somebody I can count on at 4am when I have no ride and no cash? Someone who actually keeps my secrets? Someone who doesn’t keep secrets from me? I am getting more and more disappointed by the people in my life that I call “My Friends” and it scares me that maybe I’m the one with the problem; not my friends!
How do you know? I’m 28 years old and I have had more fun than most girls my age. I live in one of the most beautiful/young areas of North America and I have taken FULL advantage! But, I think I’m growing up and realizing I have to do the whole family thing and marriage thing that all my friends up north keep talking about…I’m changing. So, should I be so despised by my girlfriends that seem so desperate for security and finding the one that they will date a guy that abuses them and is 20years older than them? Or is it me? How about the ones that date people that they know are completely taking advantage of them but because they are sooooo attractive they’ll deal with it and miss the chance at true love? Or is it me?
My feelings you ask?…It sickens me! I can’t believe people have lost so much faith in themselves that they’re settling for less. I mean, I know it’s the typical cliche of “Life is Short” but I have no other response except “LIFE IS SHORT, PEOPLE!” If you don’t have that deep sickening feeling when you see their name pop up on your phone or that goal of looking as hot as you possibly can when you are getting ready for a date (because the whole time you’re imagining the look on his face when he sees you…which of course makes you melt), then what are you doing?! Please, somebody, listen to me… I feel like 28 has crept up on me so fast. I feel scared that maybe I won’t meet my soulmate and maybe I will end up alone. But!… I am NOT ever going to be in the position where I am 40 years old and I am cheating on my husband and ruining my family all because I married the wrong man. I am not going to be that lonely cougar at the bar hoping my dream man will find me because for the past 10 years I have wasted it on the this hot business professional that would take me shopping all the time but would sleep with multiple women as he traveled and I FINALLY left and now have nothing! NEVER! Please, ladies, be strong. Don’t you feel like something is missing? Like you could be doing more? Stick to your morals. Stick to your personal goals. And then, love will come. I have faith. Don’t you? Come back to me my friends…
AMEN - sing it sister!!
Comment by MG — June 16, 2008 @ 4:07 am
Don’t think of friends in such a limiting fashion… there are all kinds of friends. There is the friend you call at 4am, the one you laugh with, the one you hang out at starbucks with, the one who you call for advice… The ones who were there at the time you needed them and gone when you don’t need them. People change and the goal is make that change a positive one. Sometimes that means friends change too.
Comment by Katharine — July 7, 2008 @ 7:32 pm
True friends are the ones that will always be there for you, even if they are thousands of miles away. The ones who you can go weeks without talking to and then pick up like it was yesterday. The ones who tell you the truth, even when it hurts. But the ultimate true friend…the one who would help you bury the body!! haha
Comment by Jennifer — August 4, 2008 @ 5:14 pm
Hey Girl…It’s me! WOW!!! I didn’t know you had this website. WOW, again. What you said is great and you are so right. I think we have wasted some time doing things we wish could have been different, but the best thing we have now is that we realize what we truly want and are going to go after it. I am here for you and I know you have my back. I know we will have what we are looking for and along the way be here for each other through it all. Love you XOXOXO
Comment by Cindy — October 7, 2008 @ 1:30 pm